There appears to be a lot of collective cultural investment in what weddings should be. Many people seem to have preconceived notions of what you should be spending, for instance — not to mention what you should be wearing, what you should be doing, and how you should be acting. All of which makes it hard to sort between what you want to do and what you feel you must do.

Here’s the thing you need to know: You’re OK. You are. You’re OK how you are.

Are you spending $3,000 on your wedding? Are you spending $30,000 on your wedding? Are you more traditional than the indie wedding blogs insinuate you should be? Are you more alternative than the mainstream wedding industry implies you should be? Are you doing favors, or aren’t you? Are you eschewing booze for punch? Are you eschewing dancing for Rock Band, or board games?

Awesome.

I respect what you’re doing. It may not be exactly what I’m doing, but I respect it anyway.

Because the only things that matter to me?

1) You can afford whatever it is you’re doing.

2) You’re doing what is important to you.

Rock on, sisterfriend.* Rock on.

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* And brotherfriend, for that matter.