I’m tired of the internet. No, scratch that. I’m tired of looking at weddings on the internet. Lately it seems like every “real wedding” post I read kicks off with the same breathlessly gushy introduction about how this wedding is simply so sweet and airy it will just make you want to grin so hard your cheeks will hurt, and your toes will feel fluttery and you’ll want to do a little dance and shout “yay!” And I have to fight the urge to roll my eyes so hard they shoot out of their sockets.
I know. I’m a bitter, heartless, unsentimental bastard.
Here’s something else I want to know: Why is everything on the internet so perfect and twee? I click one link, and it is like “Look! Look at this cute thing! You know you want this cute thing so bad you could just keel over and DIE!!” And I click away and onto the next, and all of a sudden it’s “THING THING THING! CUTE CUTE CUTE!” all up in my face.
I am tired, tired, tired.
All this stuff is just stuff. Stuff that will be forgotten or sold or sent to a landfill.* I can’t muster the energy to care about it so. Damn. Hard.
Finally, I just want to say a big special EFF YOU to all those impeccably designed invitation suites out there. Seriously. You know who you are.
Well, that’s our show for today! Thank you. Thanks for comin’ out, folks! Have a safe drive home. I’ll be here all week.
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* Davanie of A Paler Shade of White posted about stuff a couple weeks ago, and it’s been kicking around in my head ever since. Where does it come from? Where will it end up? Can I repurpose most of the stuff I use for the wedding? The stuff I use for my life? Go read if you haven’t.
Because, like you, I’m designing all my own paper I would like to join in your EFF you to the impeccably designed invitation suites. They used to make me feel like a talentless (letterpress-less) hack, but I’m officially now too tired to care.
Fuck that shit. I see so many girls bitching about wedding related posts that dont have pictures and I LOL because those are my fav posts. Why can’t there be more of them?
I very much enjoy your blog. So nice to hear another normal voice in the wedding blogosphere on the interwebs!
Haha, I was nodding my head in agreement while reading this – then I get to the end and see my name. Thanks for validating my thoughts on stuff -it feels good to know the little thoughts I have floating around in my head can spark a little something or resonate with the mind of someone else. It’s awesome to know that posts like yours and mine can make people think a little about their own stuff, whether it’s for a wedding or otherwise.
Have you watched the story of stuff? http://www.storyofstuff.com/ Because THAT’s where our wedding shit ends up.
I’m with you. I can’t care, but I also do. I work in the sustainability industry and I also like pretty things. I’m getting all emotionally torn up by wedding stuff and it’s absurd. I’ve set hard and fast rules that we won’t contribute to the stuff-related madness, but it’s so hard to buck the trend. People don’t understand when I talk about green weddings that I’m not talking about buying eco-friendly favors but about trying to get away from the consumptive mindset and desires for what is, ultimately, transitory and trashable. I want my $ to go towards the experience of the day and not the damn stuff. The stuff I do haev will be rented, thrifted, reusable, or resellable. It it’s not: eff it, I don’t care enough.
kc — Yes, and yes. No, scratch that, maybe we aren’t too tired to care. Maybe we are too cool to care? Yes. That’s the one.
cupcake — It’s like we’ve become used to the pictures-as-narrative norm that blogs and websites tend to follow. I’m with you, give me more words. WORDS.
kathleen — Dude, thanks!!
Davanie — You really got me thinking on that topic. I hadn’t really considered what happens to the wedding junk post-wedding. So thanks for that.
Becca — It’s hard. If I don’t have STUFF, how do I make it PRETTY?? I’m leaning toward the thrifted/resellable end of the spectrum for the decorative bits. Might as well use stuff that’s already floating around out there…