You know, lately I just can’t seem to pull the blog posts together. I have a few of them simmering in my saved drafts folder, but each are about 30 million words long and seem to have entirely lost sight of their original points and trying to find them again feels like a torturous afternoon spent listening to news talk radio in the dentist’s office.
It’s not a good week for the blog. It’s not a good week for being a bride.
Actually, I take that back. I feel like we’ve made some real wedding inroads lately. We released our STDs into the wild, we decided on an officiant, I started building our website, and we are making hotel block reservations. Those are not things I necessarily want to write about, though. I mean, imagine reading a post like this:
“Hey guys, we finally went to this one motel that’s right near our venue? And it used to be terrible, but we’d heard this guy had taken it over and was renovating it? So we walked in and were like, “We’re interested in reserving a block of your rooms for our wedding,” and the proprietor was so shocked and excited that he actually mimicked picking his jaw up off the ground. He showed us one of the rooms he had renovated, and it had bamboo floors and really nice shower heads and new bedding from Linens & Things, and he said by September he should have almost all of the second story redone, which is roughly 10 rooms. Perfect! The motel is seriously a half a stumble from both the venue AND the afterparty bar, and it gets even better: The rooms are an unheard-of-in-downtown-Santa-Barbara $89/night!”
I mean, yeah. Bonus for us, ultimate snore for you. But sadly, this is all that I can muster of late.
So today I am taking a page straight from Becca. I’m going to forget about wedding stuff. I’m going to tell you just a little bit about what else has been going on in my head.
- I’m trying to figure out what my next career step should be, and how exactly I should go about pursuing it.
- I’m contemplating wanderlust. Can we ever leave this city when we’re lucky enough to have decent jobs? Can I convince the beau to pull up roots and put down new ones elsewhere? Another state? Another time zone? Another country?
- I’m fighting a daily battle with time management and self-discipline. Many days, they win.
- World travel. ‘Nuff said.
- I’m seething over how much I want to kick Sidney Crosby in the shins. While wearing steel-toed boots. Don’t worry, this is merely a hockey grudge.
- I’m mourning the loss of time spent reading books, because whenever I read a book I tend to get utterly absorbed in it, and I can’t make room for utter absorption in my life right now.
- Pita pizza. Oh god, I could eat homemade pita pizzas for dinner every single night.
- I suspect I may be getting a Kitchen-Aid stand mixer for my bridal shower as a joint gift from my aunts, and I am so excited at the prospect of what I can make with it. Bread! Raised doughnuts! Butter!
- On second thought, maybe a stand mixer is a bad idea.
- I’m rededicating myself to my goal of finally speaking German fluently.
Well, that was fun.
Oh yeah, I wanted to tell you I have another blog called another damn life. I started it a few months ago just… because. Because I decided I like blogging and want to continue it long past the day I become an old married woman. Posting over there will remain sporadic at least until after the wedding, but I did manage to put something up earlier today. Take a gander if you like.
And now it’s your turn. I know many of you have already shared a bit about yourselves over at A Los Angeles Love, but I wanna hear more. Tell me something. Anything. Go!
I like these posts. I haven’t had the chance to comment on Becca’s yet today, but both of them warmed my heart. A few things that are on my mind today:
-I’m exhausted. My alarm goes off in the 4AM hour far too often these days. Also, I’m at work into the 9 and 10PM hour far too often these days.
-My roots are like mad, whoa. I am counting down the HOURS until my hair appointment on Saturday.
-I actually DID get an early shower present of a KitchenAid mixer from my future mother-in-law two days ago and I’ve been running down the recipes in my head of what to make first. Cupcakes? Pie? Bread??? I’m so freaking stoked.
-I’m wondering if my next show travels afar this summer if I’ll be able to stand being away from a new hubby and my sweet pooch for a very long period of time.
-I hate that I haven’t finished a single book this year and hope to rectify that on the 6 hour plane ride next Friday night, and the 6 hour plane ride back that Sunday.
-I wish I was at home right now on the couch with my basset on my toes instead of hear at work waiting for them to FREAKING WRAP ALREADY.
That’s it. Late night ramblings of a crazy ass fellow blogger.
Oh, and I can’t wait to add your other blog to my RSS 🙂
4 a.m.!?! Yiiiiiiiiiiikes!
I saw your new BOYSENBERRY mixer on your blog! That thing is sweet! If you make any good pies with that thing, let me know!
Oh my. The list of worries:
* Job. Career. Wishing I knew what the eff I wanted to do with myself next because next is just around the corner.
* Wishing I had handled things better at the beginning of my divorce so that my ex wasn’t so toxic around my children.
* Sad that my son missed the party at his school today because of said toxic ex.
* Worried that my being a space cadet due to massive stress at the beginning of the year may have caused me more problems than I can handle.
* Wishing T would turn his game off so we could go snuggle. I need snuggles.
* Tired of working late every every night.
* Wondering what I should plan for Mother’s Day with my kids.
* Wondering what to get my daughter for her birthday.
* Wishing I could stop clenching my jaw so the TMJ would go away.
Oy. I like wedding stuff because my real stuff is too stressful.
Oh Sarah. I wish I could get thee to a spa, stat. You need some relaxation time like no other.
Spa. Vaguely recall those. They have bathrooms where children don’t open the door while you’re sitting on the pot, right? Sigh.
let me begin? i came to win battle me thats a sin?
(hope thats what you were going for with the title and I didn’t just make a fool of myself!)
No way you’re a fool! You nailed it, woman. Get out yo seat and jump around, indeed.
I didn’t comment on Becca’s because we’ve been emailing each other to the point where I may be stalking her, but I do need to spend more time with Lynn, so here we go:
1. I need to figure out how and whether I am going to be the next Augusten Burroughs or the next great political writer or give up on greatness and go into academia. Can’t do, teach.
2. I have an unhealthy obsession with Selena Gomez. She is mexican! She is cute! She is sarcastic! Her hair is pretty! Um, I don’t tell my friends this and begged the guy not to tell anyone.
3. I want to live in another country, but can’t figure out how to do this without writing my book and becoming rich and famous. Need plan b that doesn’t involve fame, just living my dreams the way I can.
4. I can’t decide what I love more: gummi bears, brie or bread dipped in sea salt and evoo.
5. I wish I could go dancing every night. Love me some hip hop and reggaeton.
6. I would like to learn french and live in Paris before I die.
7. If I were rich, I might become a stoner, because I could.
Lady, I am with you on all of those except maybe Selena Gomez (just Googled her — can’t believe she was born in 1992, oh god, I feel so old). I couldn’t choose between gummy bears, brie, or bread/evoo/sea salt, either. Am so happy that I don’t have to make that choice.
PAREE! FRONCH! The inner snob in me would die.
I wrote commented on Becca’s post, so I don’t want to get all “into myself.” But I do want to say…
1) Lyn, you rock.
2) Feeling you on the post rut.
3) I am convinced that Josh and I will invent something that will be the next big infomercial hit. I’m also convinced that one day we will own our own deli/Filipino restaurant/doughnut shop/ice cream shop/barcade/music venue.
4) I have a joint celebrity crush on Tim & Eric. Oh, an Paul Rudd. Rawr.
Awww. But I WANNA be all into you. Um, you know, in a platonic way.
You and Josh need to open that store stat. Ohmigod. I would move where you live just so I could frequent that place.
*I am in DIY burnout hell right now. Seriously wishing I could throw money at the projects I have left, but alas, no funds to spare.
*Dreaming of our honeymoon, which is back on, yet again, after a brief fight with our bank accounts.
*Seriously. Freaking. Ready. to quit my job and go to graduate school this fall. YAY for time to read and write and learn!
*Sick of living 50 miles away from my fiance … ready to be married, just so we can live in the same house.
*I want to drive home as fast as I can, crawl back into bed and watch reruns of Dawson’s Creek for DAYS. ON. END.
Random bits:
– For as long as I can remember I’ve been on this track to being a scientist but somewhere around the masters my ambition ran out, the balance shifted from career to life. Now I exist in a weird junior-scientist limbo and wonder if I’ll come to regret this later. (I do air pollution health research)
– …. on the life side though, we do own a little townhouse now and I can’t wait to fix it up!
– I’m growing basil outside in a little pot and every day I want to run out and examine the little seedlings for their progress
– I’m sad that so many of my closest friends have moved away and we don’t get to gab over a bottle of wine that often anymore, but happy that I’ve stayed close with them anyway
– I’m kind of amazed that I didn’t discover great bloggers until I went in a desperate search for sane wedding advice
– I’m happy to hear that you have another blog so I get to enjoy your great writing well after the wedding!
You have a townhouse! Congrats. That is rad. Also, I love basil. Plants in general. I’d totally run outside to check it everyday if I had some, too.
I love that you’re a scientist. I have been part of a USC study on the respiratory effects of air pollution since 7th grade. Not that that’s uh, interesting or anything, but your job reminded me of that.
SERIOUSLY!?? that’s totally freaken awesome! And yes, I realize I am a total nerd for getting this excited, but I have probably cited your results on many, many occasions and will continue to do so for as long as they publish on it (which will be for years, they milk those big long cohort studies for all they’ve got). So good work, you good participant you!
Lyn, I love you. And I read your entire other blog last night, and I love it too. Also, pita pizza and international travel are so high up on my happy list that I could hug you for mentioning them both.
@Nina – I now want to email you re: professional things. Just saying.
do it! your “email me” link didn’t seem to be working but I’m at nina dot clark at gmail dot com
I’m so glad you have another blog. I think it is pretty rad the way women commune on the internet, in another life I’ll write my master’s thesis about it, but I don’t like all the messages I get encouraging me to continue enjoying the lady commune of wedding planning internetting after the wedding by getting into homecare internetting and/or baby-raising internetting. Why doesn’t TheKnot have a spinoff called TheGrind, full of ads for sharp suits and nice pens and weekly newsletters about the 10 new briefcase trends you need to know about?
Did you get that same awful “the nest” email today? The one that was simply full of women griping about their biggest wedding regrets, many specifically related to the registry? (Buy more stuff! Nest and buy! Buy buy buy! and then have a baby!)
Yes, I’m trying to figure out the whole post-wedding blogging thing too. Because you women are rad and I like it here on the internets. And I don’t generally like nesting and buying and I’m not quite ready for a baby.
So glad to know that everyone else is trying to figure out the post-wedding blogging issue, too.
I kind of like nesting, buying is only fun when you have money to buy with, and I’d like to take a break from my kids every now and again, so prefer not to blog about them.
Women communing. Yes. I have loved that. That’s the best thing that came out of this blog, for me. And I’m glad that those of us who have wedding blogs are contemplating continuing the blogging even after the wedding. No matter what we choose to say, the internet needs our voices. The internet needs intelligent gals.
* Mmm…gummy bears, brie, bread, cupcakes. Yum.
*I love my Kitchen Aid stand mixer that I inherited from my grandmother about 8 years ago. Love it…use it all the time. 🙂
*My husband and I had an epic fight over whether or not my Kitchen Aid was a mixer. (Back a year or two ago. ) Largely due to the fact that he hadn’t seen one before and thought hand mixers were the real thing, and we are a bilingual couple so maybe that added to the confusion…? The fight was our worst up to that point. All over a “mixer.”
*Getting ready to move and don’t have an apartment yet and my husband is in Europe til June 1st, and Canada is not my native country so I don’t know if I can even rent here (without him) since I don’t have a social insurance number or credit history here. Sigh.
*We wish we could buy a house, but…money is probably lacking for that…
*I miss my cat because I am at a conference right now. (And I am only a recent “cat person.”)
*I like your blog! 🙂
lol, Hockey is awesome… and sadly I gotta say ‘Sid the Kid’ is pretty much well loved here- mostly cuz Cole Harbour (hometown) is a short drive away from me… but he looks pretty damn smarmy all the time… (crazy Canadians hah).
anyhoo, I actually really enjoyed your motel story- especially how cute the owner sounded- yay supporting local businesses!
I am stalled on the wedding planning front. I think I actually need an intervention or something. maybe a girls meeting over coffee to actually ouu and ahh over stuff. or something.
My life right now- translating and creating programs for Acadian-Francophone preschoolers with regards to speech language pathology. woot.
Oh yes. I’m still not sure why I have something against him. He’s just one of those guys I love to hate. Also, I am still bitter that the Penguins beat the Red Wings last year.
Dude, your job sounds crazy awesomely interesting! I love language.
How lucky with the hotel reservations! Perhaps I am just too curious about other people’s lives but I really like reading those kinds of ‘real’ posts. I like the feeling of normal people out there doing normal things because (confession) sometimes the long thoughtful posts on feminism and social class and cultural norms and pressure and and and are more than I can handle in a day.
Let’s see, what normal life stuff has been going on with me lately. Mostly that I’ve been entirely wrapped up in various young adult fantasy novels, including The Hunger Games and then Graceling and Fire.
ok, seriously I have been reading a zillion of your posts… out loud to my fiancé and snorting with laughter (yep I am THAT cool).
hah- you are awesome. just gotta say it.
and yeah… I guess I really like my job… and I love languages too! and well, working with preschoolers really has given me some scary insight into the SCARINESS, that you alluded to in another post about children. the other day one little gal vomited on my office floor. I had to hand the paper towel to her mom and try not to follow suite and add to the mess. i really do not believe that when it’s your own kids it’s less gross. i figure it’s just as gross, but you’re less embarrassed about adding.
sorry, just sayin’.
the really SCARY part? after that I still want *one* (ONLY ONE) child. which is ridiculous. i know.